Being Your Own Person
This post got my attention. The topic title was "Love Till too Tired to Love". This guy sounded like he has exhausted all his love. Or he felt that he didn’t seem to receive the love that he had given out. His post:
Have you guys ever encouter the times when you love someone so much until the stage where you almost lost yourself.
On one hand you are scare that if you hold on too much she will run.
On the other hand if you let go too much she will feel unloved.
As a guy you are given the task of balancing out how much should you control the love to be given to the girl you love.
Why must it be this way?
If you let it go then the girl would just walk away…
Is this how love should be ?
Always putting yourself in the line for someone when you just fall once and you are never given a second chance.
I like this reply:
This isn’t a problem just affecting guys. In fact, it’s also a girl’s problem. If you hold onto him, he’ll just walk away, especially if he’s a commitment-phobe. But if you don’t, what if he betrays your trust?
Key words 
space & trust.
If you trust that person enough, then you can give that person the space he/she needs without suffocating them with your overwhelming love for them. Being in love is a great feeling, but understand that some people need their own personal space more than others. Some prefer to have their own friends, so that they can have an objective view when there’re problems in the relationship.
Everybody also needs the time to do the things they like to do. A relationship can mean sacrifices, but it doesn’t mean having to give up your entire self, or your own identity. Because if you do, then you’ll Not be the same person she/he fell in love with in the 1st place.
Most certainly, your partner will take top priority in your relationship, & you’d like to spend all your time with that person. But I’d also go absolutely mental if I can’t have the space to do my own things in private, like pick my nose or fart, which I wouldn’t do in front of a date.
I must say, that’s very thoughful of this guy who wouldn’t pick his nose or fart in front of his date. Which I believe is the basic fundamental courtesy for dates. Loving someone doesn’t mean losing your identity. It also means accepting that person’s identity.
